Remember the clueless man that had to go through the experience of hearing women thoughts 24/4? Just so he can get a clue of what they really wanted. Yes, the 2000 film What Women Wants. This blog is basically a free pass for the heterosexual male who feel or have felt clueless at some point of a relationship with women. And even for those who can swear they now their lady but would like to add more knowledge in their experience.
Communication is key, it’s not always about what we reflect, or our corporal language. In my case, my boyfriend always reminds me that I wear my feeling on my sleeve what makes it a little easier for me to communicate what I want without actually saying it. But that is just an exception a really rare one.
Dominate The Moment: We all like that, Most of the Time.
Guys if your lady is not being very clear with what she want’s make sure to ask it’s always nice to ask instead of assuming. You know what they say about assuming (never ass-u-me it makes an ASS of U and ME)
If by any chance a lady out there is reading this please please please, never be afraid to ask exactly what you want. You’ll be surprised how much convenient it is. Going back to those gentlemen out there, Take control f you are the one requesting sexy time!
1. Eye Contact
First comes first you need to want this if you do, prove it’s that easy. Make sure to make eye contact when you are either telling her what you want or showing her. It’s about reflecting that urge and desire so you can transmit the right intention as soon as possible. The turn-on point happens fast, therefore, you must act fast.
Make your second move quick, Foreplay.
2. Our President Was Somewhat Right (Wrong Women Thought!)
Remember that inspiring quote from our lovely president, Trump: “Grab them by the pussy”. Well, coming out of that awful situation sounds horrible I know. But every woman likes to be surprised by THERE MAN hands in their cherry, it’s one of my favorite ways to get turn on in a second. Please evaluate the moment before jumping to the conclusion that it’s perfectly fine to do it. Don’t be like Trump, please!
3. Tell Her What You Want
Here, there, do this, slow, fast, hard, or soft demand it!! Talk about a perfect trade if you say what you want only then you can guarantee that she will tell you exactly what she wants. Communication is key for a consensually pleasured moment.
4. Be Expressive
Based on an honest and proper feedback you can continue receiving pleasure like you always dreamed of. Women are blessed in many ways but we cannot read minds, YET. If you like her hard work tell her, communicating how thing makes you feel opens a door of trust and comfortable sexy time. We like to know that we are doing a great job and not feel self conscience about telling our man how we like it too.
5. Be spontaneous
As adults sometimes life makes it hard to incorporate sexy time in your daily routine and that is totally normal. For some couple, it’s perfectly fine to schedule it and for some, it’s just a little too hard to assume sex in a routine. But when time limits your creativity go creative with how or what you introduce in the moment.
Sex toys are a reliable source when it comes to making sex more fun and pleasant. Make sure you both are comfortable and go for it Usually Cock rings, male masturbators and bullets are more convenient for couples.
Role play and Sex Positions
If role play is your thing go for it, plan it and if you’re feeling it you can dress up to make more real and fun the moment. It’s a perfect moment to be whatever you want. It’s important that you both feel comfortable and agree to certain rules incorporated.
Trying new sex positions or changing them every time you have sex is essential to fight with that routine feeling if that’s the case. If you are feeling adventurous there is no need to have sex in the same position over and over again. Spice it up plus only this way you can play smoothly with who wants to be in control.
Lubricants, Candle, and Enhancers
You would be surprised how may things are out there to help you make sex more fun. Edible massage candles are perfect for romantic nights. this is one of my favorites I mean who hates to get a massage right before sex?
There’s a big variety of lubes and enhancers to choose from since not everyone is into the same things. It’s like shopping for candy literally!! You can choose flavors and based (I always recommend water based). You can also look for different type of performance, oral sex, intercourse and anal. Enhancers are always a plus for both women and men.
Let’s be honest everyone enjoys that extra love in valentines day even those who claim to hate it. What we honestly hate deep inside is how commercial it has become. That is totally understandable I hate it too and that is why I always manage to celebrate with friends and loved ones in the simplest way. After all, it’s all about spreading the love in the most simple and detailed way.
Here are some ideas to help you get creative for valentines day:
I would definitely pass with the flowers and chocolates since they aren’t original. But if that’s your style and your loved one is into flowers and chocolate spice it up a little bit. Make it more personal by writing a personal message and if its just flowers write why flowers were a perfect gift. I would also spice it up with some flowers that have some nice meaning.
A Relaxing one
Get some nice essential oils and candles and make your hands the perfect gift. Trust me no one can resist a sexy massage that would lead to a lovely night.
Let’s admit it we know what’s everyone’s goals are after sharing gifts and tons of love. Don’t let anyone tell you that Valentine’s day is not about sex because it can be!
Lingerie would be a nice gift that at the end would be beneficial for you. When considering sexy gifts sex toys for couples and lubricants are always an option. Check out some nice products at our sex toys boutique .
It’s always difficult to make reservations at a place that you know for a fact is going to impress your loved one. It’s always about availability, budgets, and work schedules when Valentines is on a Tuesday night.
Here are some alternatives for that fancy dinner:
Cook their favorite meal
This can never fail especially if you have a good wine and some nice desert. I suggest you incorporate some aphrodisiacs for a more productive night!
In your patio or a park, a picnic is a very intimate and simple way to make dinner more creative. The outdoor will give you guys a different and relaxing moment.
That Extra Mile
With a table, computer, TV, or a very nice organized event this should be a very interesting way to spice your Valentines movie night. Some homemade popcorn and wine would perfectly compliment things as well.
Create some nice sexy coupons for kisses, massages, or a bath together. Be creative, they are your coupons and you use them as you please!
Take advantage of the nice sexy gifts and that sexy time in bed and create a very nice environment. Capture your special moment and create a private album just for the two of you to enjoy as many times as you like.
Create a playlist
This is something that I personally love, to create a playlist for every possible moment in my life especially with my significant other. A sex playlist is a must for Valentine’s Day plus imagine having background music when making love. It just gives the moment a special feeling. You can use Spotify or the Apple Music app.
Happy Valentine’s day, Enjoy!
Have you ever thought about yourself as being heartless for simply not enjoying the typical romantic movie? You are not alone and I’m beyond tired of the traditional storyline that Hollywood has to offer. What can I say, It simply bores me with unrealistic happy endings. I promise you I’ve heard better storytelling from heartbroken people sitting in a subway and sometimes an unfortunate reality warms my heart. With that said let me suggest different love stories to those for those heartless romantics like me.
Some of these films are categorized as independent drama and some are foreign productions, but they all have a hint of uniqueness and perfection for people looking for alternative love films.
1.Eternal Sunshine Of A Spotless Mind
This will blow your mind in so many ways starting with the fact that Jim Carry doesn’t play a funny character. His performance in this romantic sci-fi movie paired with his chemistry with Kate Winslet will bring you head over heels.
This reverse love story would make you travel from the end to the beginning with a “what if ” point of view. For those who are into psychology, the incorporation of Freud’s conscience theory in this movie is a plus.
Love finds Amelie when she starts enjoying the satisfaction of being able to practice several acts of kindness towards others in her very own interpersonal universe. Even though romance is a secondary topic in this brilliant film Amelie’s character might reflect strong characteristics of an undiagnosed psychotic which might make you fall in love with her.
The story revolves around Jamal Malik who is playing the Indian version of Who Wants to Be a Millionaire. In parallel to the questions and answers of the game show are flashbacks to how he got there. It also shows fragments of how he survived on the streets of Mumbai turning to a life of thievery after his Mother died. All these intense scenes will bring you and Jamal to the spotlight of sitting in that chair questioning if love is worth all of it.
3.Sex and Lucía
In this film, Lucia expresses love and strong emotions through sex. She decides to move to an island trying to solve some personal issues she wasn’t able in her previous relationship. Missing her boyfriend she travels in time bringing to life some memories that define her as Lucía. This sensual film would have you struggling with mixed feelings of excitement from beginning to end.
This is a twist of a typical teenage love story seen through the eyes of Alex a fifteen-year-old with both male and female sexual organs as she begins to explore her sexuality. It revolves around her liking a boy whose the son of some family friends that are visiting from Buenos Aires. Making a love story around the chaos of self/gender identity is brilliant, different, and unique.
This one begins with a heartbreak and insomnia. Ben Wills found a productive way to take advantage of his sleepless nights after his girlfriend breaks up with him. This distinctive film makes you wander between fantasy and reality when he manages to stop time and appreciate life trough his artistic eye.
6.Jeux d’enfants (Love Me if You Dare)
Just when you start to think this is a typical love story, just give this one some time. The main characters have a surprisingly sick sense of humor as they play a game that starts to develop into love. What’s left at some point of their life is to dare the best friend to love in the most psychotic way. The unexpected end that I would like to interpret as symbolic will have you loving or hating the movie.
7. 500 Days of Summer
How long can a summer be? 500 days in this post-modern love story. It shows that love isn’t always reciprocal. This is far from having a typical happy ending but will nonetheless make you smile despite the funny and sad crazy journey of an unstable relationship.
Hope you guys enjoy my twisted alternative to love movies in February. You can write a comment if you want to share your list which we are more than happy to read.
A first date does not have to be intimidating anymore. It’s 2017 it doesn’t matter if you both swiped right, bumped into each other at some nice bar, or some friends set up the date for you two. Nowadays arranging a date is more comfortable and easy than it used to be. The rough part is finding the right outfits, acting properly, and to be your charming self. Here are some tips for having a successful first date.
Choosing the Right Place
I’m not quite sure if there is such thing as the right place for the first date. Everyone has different styles and preferences, so embrace it. Chose a place that you will feel comfortable and I recommend avoiding movies or clubs. Music can get pretty loud in the club and it will definitely be hard to communicate. In addition, it might be a little awkward to dance with someone you want to get to know first.
The reason movies are not a good idea for a first date:
•You guys would be skipping the part of where you ask what’s your favorite movie and might end up watching something neither of you likes.
•Most importantly movies aren’t shorter than an hour and a half. You guys are defeating the purpose of a first date: COMMUNICATION and getting to know each other. You might want to consider this for a second date.
Here are some ideas you can choose from:
Putting together the food, making food for a picnic, and enjoying the outdoors gives you or your date a chance to be creative. It shows complete interest and you will be able to control more aspects of the date.
If you are into the outdoors and having a blast with your inner child this is the right date for you. It will bring out your personality and definitely find out if your date matches yours. Plus if gives you plenty of time to chat through the day and even catch a bite together. Just be aware that certain amusement parts obligate you and your date to spend a certain amount of time together. Safer bets for amusement parks are Zoos or places that you can be in and out within a reasonable timeframe.
I like to call this the safe place. It’s always a nice and quiet place plus everyone loves coffee or tea. It is also inexpensive so it’s a good choice if you’re on a budget and want to keep things simple.
If you are not a shy person and don’t mind at all having your date watching you eat, then this is a nice place to have the first date. This will expose you to have a face to face conversation in a comfortable way and it will allow you to make eye contact easily. Most importantly you will get to know each other through communication, conveying body language, and observing food preferences. Maybe it will be a make or break with the wine decision, but its worth the shot. Cheers!
Outfits play a very important role when making first impressions. We all know what they say about first impressions and we always want to leave a good one. You don’t have to be extreme about your outfit. Do not dress up super conservative or extra sexy. Be yourself, use your style and adjust it to the occasion. If you are out for a picnic, park, or coffee type of date then do a nice casual outfit appropriate for the weather. If you decide to have dinner or coffee at night, a cocktail dress or a semi-formal outfit will be perfect.
Avoid showing too much skin as it may not give a very nice first impression on who you really are.
Ladies if you can’t handle high heels please don’t go for it. Be yourself and show your own style. Remember you need to feel comfortable in order to help with first impressions.
Do Not Pull Out Your Phone
Unless you are reaching out for help don’t do it!
Trust me its a total turn off when you are meeting with someone and the person is so distracted using their phone. It can also be really disrespectful if you do it in the middle of a conversation.
- Taking selfies
- Checking social media accounts
- Taking photos of your food, coffee, or environment
- Texting constantly
Leave the cell phone aside, enjoy the moment!
It is very nice to open a bottle of wine, sip some nice drinks or beers, even pop a bottle of champagne. On the first date, alcohol may make things more comfortable by bringing you at ease. But everything has a limit in life and alcohol is not the exception. If you are having a date I’m assuming that you should know by now how much alcohol your body can handle. We all know that alcohol can make you go crazy on so many levels so keep it nice and classy. Avoid getting tipsy or drunk, remember what I said about first impressions. So if you are having issues with loosening up, trust me alcohol is not your solution. Keep it moderation and stay classy.
Avoid Talking About Certain Topics
First dates are all about talking, getting to know each other, and enjoying each others company. Sometimes it’s hard to keep it flowing and we tend to start some random conversation just to fill the gap. It is totally normal to have awkward silence or conversation every now and then. Regardless of how awkward the conversations get avoid creating debates. Topics such as religion and politics are to be avoided at all costs. This always leads to sharing strong opinions that you guys might not even agree with.
The Ultimate First Date Conversation Rules:
Never talk about your ex
Good or bad things about your ex should never be part of a conversation on your first date or any date. Your past should be no one’s business. It would imply that you are not over it or that you like to talk about your personal life with anyone. Either way, you are not getting a good reaction.
Keep it to yourself
Never ever talk about a one night stand. Not only you are giving your date a reason to wonder about you, they will also wonder about if the date is even worth it. They are spending time and most likely money on you, and there you are talking about someone that had it super easy with you. This is for you to keep it to yourself and only yourself.
Follow these tips and enjoy your date. Remember to be yourself and accept only what feels right.
If you want to share any story about your first dates please leave us a message we are more than happy to read and share it.
Confidence is not only how people perceive us it is also a true reflection of yourself. Confident people are constantly affecting others around them in a positive way. The secret is a healthy self-esteem, the right body language, and the perfect attitude. If you want to be more confident the secret is to work on yourself from inside out.
“The Qualities I most admire in women are confidence and kindness” -Oscar de la Renta.
Self-esteem is nothing but a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude towards yourself. As I mentioned before confidence is an inside out effort. In order to show confidence, you must feel comfortable with yourself. Here is a list of things to consider when evaluating yourself:
- Fall in love with yourself and all your imperfections, remember everyone is beautiful in many different ways.
- Don’t judge yourself for any mistakes you make. Just do your best to embrace every moment and situation.
- Work on things you love and push yourself to achieve things you can be proud of.
- Run away from negative people who bring you down. Surround yourself with people who loves you for who you are.
- Fall in love with yourself every day and tell yourself how much you LOVE YOU. Remind yourself how proud you are for every achievement!
Self-care Should Be a Priority
If you want to reflect a good attitude you must feel good with yourself. You can start by taking care of yourself and rest and relaxation is a must. Make time for the basics: eat healthy, sleep well, and treat yourself.
Reward yourself with a treat after dinner maybe through a warm bath or some physical activity.
Exercise to boost your confidence
Regular physical activity can help you feel good and confident about how you look along with understanding your body’s capabilities.
Extreme physical activity isn’t necessarily required. You can start with a simple walk, some nice yoga exercises, or cardio if it fits within your goals.
Your comfort zone is a dangerous place to be. If you want to stand out in life it is necessary that you push yourself out of your comfort zone.
This can sound intimidating or scary but if you don’t try it you would never know how exciting life can get.
In addition, as you experience new places or new goals you’ll grow more confident in your everyday life.
Eye contact can be a little intimidating or sometimes uncomfortable. As you develop confidence it becomes easier to have enthusiastic conversation while looking people in the eye. It’s important to not look away as you finish talking and to maintain eye contact throughout the course of a conversation.
~Avoid distractions such as scanning the room or looking at your phone.
Moving your hands as you talk helps you illustrate a subject and enthusiasm and excitement can reflect confidence. Talking with your hands can make you look lively as long as you remember to keep your hand movements under control.
Engage in Fronting
Always be aware of your body positions when approaching someone. Aiming your torso towards the person you are talking to can help you engage in conversation with confidence.
A Good Attitude
Avoid negative habits when talking
Avoid starting a conversation that undermines you like “I’m not sure but..” “It’s just my opinion” “I’m not an expert, but…” Starting sentences like this can reflect a lack of confidence regardless of how engaging or interesting the topic is.
Don’t use unnecessary words like “just”. This can make you look uncertain and somewhat nervous.
Never end sentences as if it were a question, never! This can come off as insecurity on what you are trying to communicate reflecting nervous behavior.
Take responsibilities for your actions
Insecurity can make you cover up mistakes and always find an excuse. Work on taking responsibility for your decisions and actions, good or bad. Mistakes do not define your life.
Embrace your imperfections
It’s all about recognizing your flaws and embracing them. Accept them as part of you and notice how good it feels. Trying to mask your imperfections can often make you feel insecure and not to mention even more stressed.
This should be rule number one! You have a personality and is unique so don’t try to be anything but yourself. Remember that the only person you need to impress is yourself.
Follow your intuition
Become more aware of your thoughts
Connect with your inner child
If you think you need some extra help with your confidence or self-esteem visit betterhelp.com for some professional counseling.
A Neutral Vaginal PH
A neutral vaginal PH balance is very important in every ladies life. It plays an important role in a women’s confidence. Also is very necessary for a perfect healthy oral sex and any sexual experience even your solo ones.
How much do you really know your vagina? I’m pretty sure you might think you know it all or nothing at all. I’m sure you would want to know how much. Despite your confidence is very important to search for new information. There are a lot of misconceptions about what you should do to maintain a healthy vagina.
Allow us to introduce you to some important things that your vagina wants to tell you:
After all, we are what we eat and so is our vagina. It’s not about limiting what you eat or going on a diet. Just make sure you include a list of beneficial food like:
It contains lactobacillus (a good bacteria) It helps your vagina stay in the optimal PH range fighting bad bacterias. You can buy the same probiotic in the yogurt in pill format ( probiotic feminine supplement)
Green Tea or Cranberry Juice
Cranberry Juice helps fight urinary tract infections. Cranberries contain compounds that stop the infection from sticking to your bladder. It is best to consume some homemade with no too much sugar and sugar is a hazard for yeast infection. Green tea with its potent antimicrobial effect could help fight UTI’s without putting in risk your vaginal PH balance.
Fish ( omega 3 )
Some nice fish in your diet or simply supplement pills. Omega 3 fatty acid it’s an anti-inflammatory that studies suggest may help with discomfort when presenting first symptoms of an unbalanced PH.
Minimally Processed Soy foods
like tofu, organic edamame, or tempeh. They are high in estrogen and also hydrophilic making them good for vaginal dryness due to low levels of estrogen so you would definitely want to put this on your list. A daily consumption of this products can help keep your tissues elastic and well lubricated by attracting more water to your tissues.
Apple Cider Vinegar
This is a strong natural antibiotic. This acid liquid it’s very helpful when you have a basic ph. It kills viruses and bacteria making good bacteria recolonize. There are many ways to include the apple cider vinegar in your diet, you can also apply directly to the vagina.
Take one spoon of apple cider vinegar and dilute in an 8oz cup of water and drink daily. You can also use this water-vinegar and apply or wipe vulva with it. Try to avoid a daily application due to the acid.
Also, try to avoid hormonal birth control this can affect your natural hormone balance affecting your vaginal flora.
Keep in mind all the food to include in your diet especially probiotic this will help to maintain a neutral PH balance fighting any possible yeast infection.
No soap! Seriously ladies you don’t need soap to clean your lady part. It is so perfect that it cleans itself. Some nice temperature water will do the job.
If you feel a little uncomfortable or you think your body smell is too strong for just water then try some simple mild soap. Avoid any crazy fragrance and avoid falling for the feminine wash. Remember that less is more, fewer ingredients the better the product.
And for the love of your chacha say no to douching!
There are actually some studies that have shown that using this type of products can put you at big risk of infections, STD’s, and pelvic inflammatory disease.
Go commando whenever you can so it can air out. The less humid the best for your PH balance.
Managing your period the correct way is crucial for a perfect vaginal PH balance. Ladies this is a once a month thing, 12 times a year sometimes more this is a part of us that we must master.
Is a must that you:
Keep it clean and fresh down there with only water or maybe some gentle soap and gentle wipes.
○Change tampons, pads or cup as often as possible avoid scented pads and tampons.
○Remember to be careful with pills
○Have safe sex if you do have sex when you have your period.
I Know for a fact that a visit to the Gynecologist can be very stressful, scary or tedious moment. This annual exam is very necessary and it’s not only about the pelvic exam. This is a good time to do an STD test, check out for general infections, talk about your birth control and any sexual or vaginal issues or concerns.
Tip: make a vaginal or sexual journal or notebook. Write down any situation, questions or concerns you have through the year. Trust me this will make your life easier that one day.
Ladies we all have’d that moment wen you’re in the mood but your vagina didn’t get the memo. No need to feel self-conscious, that is totally normal. Vaginal dryness can be caused by some medications, like antidepressants, hormonal birth control, and antibiotics. It can also crop up with menopause or after pregnancy. To avoid cuts or soreness that can lead to a yeast infection or any discomfort make sure to communicate with your partner so they won’t forge ahead without being lubricated.
Condoms are great protecting against Pregnancy and STD’s. Also, some studies have found that using a rubber when having sex can helps keep your vaginal PH level on point do good bacterias can survive in there. Especially if you are not in a monogamous relationship.
A very important note:
keep it separated, if you are using a condom for anal sex make sure to change it before going from anal to vaginal sex. If you go from back to front without cleaning properly this exposes your vagina to a host of bacteria risking a yeast infection.
I’m Hoping for a world with a better Vaginal PH balance!
An aphrodisiac is a food, drink, or drug that stimulates sexual desire. It turns you on, it gets your pants hot, it arouses you, it gets you extra extimulated or however you want to call it. After all, it boils down to hormones.
Experts say that they work in two ways those that stimulate sexual desires by affecting parts of the body and does that stimulates sexual desires by working on the mind.
For example, It can make our bodies produce chemicals associated with sexual desires. It can also increase blood flow to the sex organs that stimulates sexual feeling.
There are a lot of rumors about Caribbeans being very caliente due to the consumption them. After living in that sensual weather for years I am here to confirm any sexual stereotypes and talk a little about how exactly does it work. Maybe we can all be Caribbeans in a fantasy night. Better and more exciting sex, who doesn’t want that?
My grandmother used to say:
“You always have to keep men happy with food and sex”. I actually grew up thinking that this was such a sexist comment. Well maybe because I knew she did it all to satisfy my grandpa and not herself. But thinking outside of that sexist box where my grandma grew up, food and sex are always keeping my man happy and myself of course.
I always try to make my food good and sex even better after all grandma was right, it keeps him happy. I have manage to make one deliciousness lead to another. And it’s as simple as including aphrodisiacs in your kitchen. Some think that this is all mental but what if I tell you that your food can actually drag you and your partner straight to sex and prove it to you.
There is actually numerous aphrodisiac but only a few have made a reputation of their own. Seafood is known as one of the most fulfilling aphrodisiacs making lots of couples go for that seafood plate on February 14 or that person full of hopes in their first date hoping to make it at least to second base. Well, you guys get the point.
When I mention that the Caribbeans consume aphrodisiacs I was referring to seafood. This aphrodisiac is present on more than their 75% daily plates. Imagine having so much love boost.
Caribbeans and Their Aphrodisiac
Each and every country in the Caribbean claims to have a unique and delicious recipe that will make your love mode boost to the next level.
Based on that we decided to make a quick research of all these different recipes. All of them end up being a mix of seafood and the authentication of the plate was in the sauce. We decided to combine differents aspects of some recipes like Mojo isleño, Break the Matress, Come Back to Life, and Seven Powers to create a fulfilling aphrodisiac. We had lots of Fun putting this ebook together so we are more than happy to share it with you!
Click on the book cover to view and download your Caribbean treasure!
This is not a substitute for erectile dysfunction drugs nor sexual enhancement pill.
Always practice safe and consensual sex.
Open a bottle of wine for the love of sex and enjoy!
How Aphrodisiac Work
Here is a friendly site that explains how aphrodisiac work. Take a peek for more information