Have you ever said I don’t do that when someone asked to go down for them or have you ever asked constantly “you like that” when going down, or you just don’t feel confident enough? You are not alone! 76% of young adults between the ages of 18-30 don’t feel comfortable when giving or receiving oral sex. And it’s normal to feel uncomfortable about something you may not be familiar with or you simply haven’t been exposed to it often. But I promise one thing, once you get a hang of it, you wouldn’t want to give it a rest!
Oral sex often referred to as oral intercourse it’s a sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia by using the mouth. This act can be performed on men and women. Cunnilingus when women are receiving oral sex and fellatio when men are receiving oral sex.
noun \ cun·ni·lin·gus \ˌkə-ni-ˈliŋ-gəs\
Eat her out, dine at the Y, lip reading, muff diving, and the list goes on for all the slangs of cunnilingus. Culinnungus is an oral sex act performed by a person on a female’s genitalia. It can be sexually arousing for any lady when performed by a fellow sexual partner as foreplay to incite sexual intercourse or as an intimate act on its own. General statistic indicates that 70-85% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve the big O. There is a higher chance for any woman to achieve an orgasm by cunnilingus do to the direct clitoral stimulation and other external parts of the vulva that are sensitive to touch.
Most men struggle when trying to give their ladies some oral sex. And we are not here to judge, the cunnilingus guide was not included with the approach of the lovely lady. Therefore we are more than happy to help you with this struggle. To start you must be familiar with all the parts of the vulva before you master it.
“The vulva is the external part of the female genitalia. It protects the women sexual organs, urinary opening, vestibule and vagina and is the center of much of a woman’s sexual response. The outer and inner ‘lips’ are called the labia majora and labia minora. The vestibule surrounds the opening of the vagina, or introitus, and the opening of the urethra, or urethral meatus. The perineum is the area extending from beneath the vulva to the anus.
The pudendal nerve transmits pain messages and other sensations from the vulva. The nerve passes through the pelvis and enters the vulvar region near the ischial spine, which is part of the hip bone. From there, it branches off into the inferior rectal nerve, perineal nerve and dorsal nerve of the clitoris. The pudendal nerve is responsible for proper functioning and control of urination, defecation, and orgasm in both males and females.”
Anatomy description by http://www.nva.org/
It’s a process
After having the necessary knowledge of the vulva’s anatomy it is crucial that you stimulate the right way in the right spot using the right moves. Note that oral sex is more than that mouth and genitalia contact. Cunnilingus is an art of giving her pleasure. To make her feel arouse have in mind that she has to be in the mood. Dominate the challenge of getting her in the mood and make her reach the ultimate pleasure with just a few tips:
•Make her comfortable
Kiss her. It never fails, caress her hair and face and slide your hand down, slowly meanwhile. Making her feel delicate and comfortable will help you build her trust and desire for you.
Touch here, there and everywhere. Being curious and confident is the secret of getting away with it. Now that you are reading a guide, there is no excuse for the lack of confident. As you are being curious kissing and touching her a little bit more notice her reaction. There are areas in her body where she is going to be more sensitive take notes and embrace it.
Lower back, behind the ears, neck, and inner thigh. Embracing those areas is nothing more than a big tease. Touch softly, kiss her gently or slightly bit her she is going to ask for more, I promise!
Foreplay is the ultimate teaser you wouldn’t want to skip this one. Play with her breast, grab her by the @$$, kiss her around the vulva but don’t give in yet. Not until you hear her moaning, breathing hard or begging you to touch her cherry.
There is no rush, start easy and slow, it’s a very delicate area that she’s letting you into. It’s important that you have rhythm and consistency with your tongue. There are three important tongue motions you would want to stick to.
This one is one of the best stimulation technique. Place your tongue on one of the sides of the clitoris and start moving it in circles around the clitoris (only the clit for now) in a clockwise or counter-clockwise motion. Strat slow, as she gets excited, speed it up. remember consistency is very important.
-Up and Down or Side to Side
This is a very easy move, and it feels great. Position your tongue on either the left, right, top or bottom. Move side to side and up and down. Rhythm is the key for this one, and you can make your own as she enjoys it.
This move is to be performed after she’s been aroused. Suction can be overwhelming in the clit at an early stage of cunnilingus. Tthe clit gently in your mouth and lightly suck on it. Be gentle it’s sensitive.
Keep anal contact away from the vulva. This prevents UTI and other complications. It’s a very sensitive are, so treat it like one.
Do’s and Don’ts
Vulva And Mouth Prep
This is basically a must. Good hygiene can help everyone get a nice experience. Ladies, shower before and gentlemen please have a fresh breath and a hydrated mouth.
Ask or Guide
There is nothing worst than wasting your time doing something that is not right. Remember the goal is to give pleasure when practicing cunnilingus. If you are not sure what’s the magic spot, ask her. Be slick about it if you prefer, make her touch herself and she will aim where it feels right. Ladies if you don’t quite like how or where his aiming, tell him, it’s that easy to receive the right stimulation.
Remember when I said it was a sensitive area? I meant it. Don’t bite her down there, not slow, not close, nor far. It’s not cool. If you are one of those that can’t help biting try her neck, inner thigh or buttcheeks this is only if she’s into that.
Don’t bombard the clit
The clit plays a very important role but it can very sensitive causing discomfort and in most cases, pain if it’s over-stimulated.
Do use your hands. It’s oral sex but you can spice it up with some touching here in there, fingers are well appreciated.
Wonder Around The Rest Of The Body
noun/ fel·la·ti·o / fəˈlāSH(ē)ˌō
Blow Job, going down, giving head, sucking off, we are all familiar with this slangs. Fellatio also known fellation, is an oral sex act involving the use of the mouth or throat which is performed by a person on the penis. 87% of men expect oral sex before intercourse. And like I mention before the key to give pleasure is to know the anatomy and functions.
The Shaft Contains the urethra, a passage for urine to leave the body. The Glands has an opening for the urethra. The frenulum is an elastic band of tissue under the glans penis that connects the foreskin. The frenulum and the associated tissue delta on the underside of the penis below the coronahas been described in sexuality textbooks as “very reactive” and “particularly responsive to touch that is light and soft”. The Scrotum & Testicles the scrotum is the sack of skin that hangs below the penis, inside the scrotum are the testicles. Soft and Sensitive.
Be Confident this will make him know who is in control. Remember this can be a playful and exploratory time. With that being said you can make this as fun or sexual as you want it to be. Start with a striptease, a massage or just slowly making your way down, down, down.
Turn Him On
Take the time to tease him, don’t just rush into oral sex with him. It’s very important that he’s aroused before performing oral sex. You can Always take your time to make his friend rise and shine in your mouth but ideally, you would want him to beg for it.
Slide your lips across his neck down to his chest spending time using your tongue as a preview. Kiss his inner thigh, this will drive him out of his mind.
A helping Hand
Sliding your hands up in down with a slight twist will increase his pleasure. This can also help you rest a little your mouth as you won’t have to go deeper nor open your mouth wider. Making your performance last longer and synchronized.
Deepthroat If You Want To Take It To The Next Level
Most guys don’t experience deep throat during oral sex. If you want to give him something most girls can’t I warn you it takes effort and practice. Deepthroat happens when fellatio is performed and the penis touches the throat ( usually causing a gag reflex ). Most men claim that it gives them a really good sensation. Yo can search for positions that will help you take it deeper and also some exercise for the gag reflex.
Touch yourself while giving him pleasure. You are not going to believe how much this turns him on. It makes him more excited to see that you are also getting some pleasure at his fun time. It confirms that you are enjoy giving pleasure and that you also know what you want. And if you have to moan because it feels good, don’t be shy!
Give The Twins Some Love
They don’t fall too far from the three so give them love. As I mentioned before the testicles are very sensitive and part of his pleasure zone. You can use your hands to massage softly or use your mouth, your tongue can be magical.
Once you’re in action, maintaining a rhythm is a must. If you can master the rhythm and consistency forget about being delicate. Yes, they like it rough, fast and intense. If your goal is for him to reach that Ooooh my God point, don’t stop until you see him reach the climax.
Do not use your teeth. It’s easier to avoid scratching him when you hide your teeth with your lips. And don’t forget to do the penis and mouth prep it is very important if you’re looking for a pleasant moment.
Here Are Some Positions To Consider When Having Oral Sex
Under The Cuckoo’s Nest
Licking The Flagpole
Pie In The Sky
Riding The North Face
Riding The South Face
Under The Sink
Under The Hood
Always practice safe and consensual sex