Remember the clueless man that had to go through the experience of hearing women thoughts 24/4? Just so he can get a clue of what they really wanted. Yes, the 2000 film What Women Wants. This blog is basically a free pass for the heterosexual male who feel or have felt clueless at some point of a relationship with women. And even for those who can swear they now their lady but would like to add more knowledge in their experience.
Communication is key, it’s not always about what we reflect, or our corporal language. In my case, my boyfriend always reminds me that I wear my feeling on my sleeve what makes it a little easier for me to communicate what I want without actually saying it. But that is just an exception a really rare one.
Dominate The Moment: We all like that, Most of the Time.
Guys if your lady is not being very clear with what she want’s make sure to ask it’s always nice to ask instead of assuming. You know what they say about assuming (never ass-u-me it makes an ASS of U and ME)
If by any chance a lady out there is reading this please please please, never be afraid to ask exactly what you want. You’ll be surprised how much convenient it is. Going back to those gentlemen out there, Take control f you are the one requesting sexy time!
1. Eye Contact
First comes first you need to want this if you do, prove it’s that easy. Make sure to make eye contact when you are either telling her what you want or showing her. It’s about reflecting that urge and desire so you can transmit the right intention as soon as possible. The turn-on point happens fast, therefore, you must act fast.
Make your second move quick, Foreplay.
2. Our President Was Somewhat Right (Wrong Women Thought!)
Remember that inspiring quote from our lovely president, Trump: “Grab them by the pussy”. Well, coming out of that awful situation sounds horrible I know. But every woman likes to be surprised by THERE MAN hands in their cherry, it’s one of my favorite ways to get turn on in a second. Please evaluate the moment before jumping to the conclusion that it’s perfectly fine to do it. Don’t be like Trump, please!
3. Tell Her What You Want
Here, there, do this, slow, fast, hard, or soft demand it!! Talk about a perfect trade if you say what you want only then you can guarantee that she will tell you exactly what she wants. Communication is key for a consensually pleasured moment.
4. Be Expressive
Based on an honest and proper feedback you can continue receiving pleasure like you always dreamed of. Women are blessed in many ways but we cannot read minds, YET. If you like her hard work tell her, communicating how thing makes you feel opens a door of trust and comfortable sexy time. We like to know that we are doing a great job and not feel self conscience about telling our man how we like it too.
5. Be spontaneous
As adults sometimes life makes it hard to incorporate sexy time in your daily routine and that is totally normal. For some couple, it’s perfectly fine to schedule it and for some, it’s just a little too hard to assume sex in a routine. But when time limits your creativity go creative with how or what you introduce in the moment.
Sex toys are a reliable source when it comes to making sex more fun and pleasant. Make sure you both are comfortable and go for it Usually Cock rings, male masturbators and bullets are more convenient for couples.
Role play and Sex Positions
If role play is your thing go for it, plan it and if you’re feeling it you can dress up to make more real and fun the moment. It’s a perfect moment to be whatever you want. It’s important that you both feel comfortable and agree to certain rules incorporated.
Trying new sex positions or changing them every time you have sex is essential to fight with that routine feeling if that’s the case. If you are feeling adventurous there is no need to have sex in the same position over and over again. Spice it up plus only this way you can play smoothly with who wants to be in control.
Lubricants, Candle, and Enhancers
You would be surprised how may things are out there to help you make sex more fun. Edible massage candles are perfect for romantic nights. this is one of my favorites I mean who hates to get a massage right before sex?
There’s a big variety of lubes and enhancers to choose from since not everyone is into the same things. It’s like shopping for candy literally!! You can choose flavors and based (I always recommend water based). You can also look for different type of performance, oral sex, intercourse and anal. Enhancers are always a plus for both women and men.
Oral sex by itself is glorious and delicious but combining oral sex positions, exciting places, and toys will bump it to the next level. This practice is more than contact with mouth and genitalia is more like art. To create good art you must be a perfectionist and an oral sex lover. Being able to turn your partner on and give some pleasure and most important being able to master it, is the best feeling ever. Understanding that this is a practice of trust and fun is the first step. As I always suggest consensual and safe sex is a must.
Usually, oral sex is the doorway for intercourse and most people don’t appreciate it, making it a short and simple act. Boring! It should be as pleasant and satisfying as intercourse. To make it more attractive and fun you should get creative, get into some good sexy positions, add toys and do it in “prohibit places”.
69 Overrated ?
As I was trying to do some extra research on sex position surprisingly I did not find much information or suggestion for the famous 69 sex position. So I started wondering if my boyfriend is the last guy on earth that loves 69. It’s funny because as I did my search I found so much hate out there I guess I’m not alone.
Here is an image I found on girls ask guys
I definitely think it’s a little uncomfortable if I’m on top and it takes so much effort to keep myself turned on. My arms get tired plus I feel like I need both hands to show off my skills. If I’m on the bottom it’s a little hard to reach the full package and guess who’s not getting full pleasure? Yup the guy that loves 69 more than brunch, and that’s a lot.
He just claims that its a total turn on to give and receive pleasure at the same time. He’s right but I do not mind taking turns sorry 69 but this has to change. There are so many positions out there that will blow your mind and hopefully my boyfriends too.
So you can probably suspect by now that my inspiration for this blog has nothing to do with my frustration with 69 (my sarcastic tone).
It’s a sex position where both are facing each other at opposite ends creating access and clear view of each other’s genital areas.
Giving mutual masturbation and mutual oral sex is what makes this sex position so famous.
Mind-blowing Oral Sex Positions
All images and videos are extracted from sex info 101. They have an awesome blog about oral sex positions, check it out!
Let’s take 69 to a new level
Here are some alternative for the famous 69
• 69 Sideways
This is a small twist for the 69 but it definitely looks more comfortable, no one has to worry about gravity.
• 69 Kneeling Or Standing
Guys put those muscles to work and ladies grab on tight. Note that if your balance and resistance is not the best, practice position first before trying to perform oral sex. If this is A first time I recommend you try kneeling first and as you master it do the standing.
This one also requires some balance. This can definitely be very exciting if an effort is put into it.
The Throat Swab
Ladies and gentlemen you are going to love this one. It’s very easy and ladies your hands are free, you decide what you want to do with them give him some extra love or touch yourself meanwhile. Doing both at the same time is the goal to maximize this great position.
I must admit this is not a position for everyone. If you are not into the yoga type of positions you can keep on scrolling down, I won’t judge. I Think this is a perfect position if you are into yoga and super flexible. Make your foreplay part of your spiritual life. Now that is a sex life goal.
The Butler or Doggie goes oral
Ladies lean forward and enjoy the butler ride. Guys you can’t ask for a better perfect view. You can use one hand to grab onto her and use your other hand to help yourself. Now ladies if trying to maintain balance is a little difficult go on all fours. Doggie goes oral is basically the same position but less effort is put into your balance.
Riding in The North
My favorite position ever. Now, ladies, this is all about you here ride it however you prefer. Going at your own speed, at your own rhythm is just glorious. I call it the freeway. Guys don’t feel left out your mouth plays an important role here so keep it up.
This is a little bit more traditional cunnilingus position but it never fails to get the job done. It also allows some free movements on your hips sou you can help him hit the right spot.
On your mark, stretch, go! This is pretty awesome one, it’s all you can eat. Perfect views if you are doing your daily stretching.
What can I say, sex intends to keep us healthy. This is probably the ultimate 69 upgrade. Remember you should try new thing only if you guys are feeling comfortable. I’m sure that if this is not your favorite you will find one here if you haven’t already.
We can definitely get very creative with this traditional fellatio position. Twist it to the sides, make him sit a little bit up and use hands and other parts of the body like your breast to add more sensations.
The usual to go, please. Yes, take it on the go or very exciting places.
Get Out of the Bed
Accept the challenge of chasing excitement, spontaneity, and adrenalin in a moment of pleasure. Be the one in the relationship to surprise your partner with free spirit oral sex.
There is nothing more exciting and breathtaking that receiving oral sex in places and moments that are not expected.
Ladies, tag your it. It’s way easier to perform oral sex on a man in a car so manifest the pleasure. Make sure it’s a street with low traffic or maybe on the highway where cars are speeding, my preference is at night since the daylight makes it more obvious but if that excites you go for it.
His Or Your Parents House
If you guys are doing a family visit and have the chance to be alone for a few seconds go down. A very exciting time is when everyone is dining. Send a text to meet in the bathroom it doesn’t have to be a long escape is just a quick heart rate raise.
If you guys are camping or in a quite park go in between the bushes this is going to be really fun and exciting. Watch out for police and mosquitos :p
Give your partner a random visit to their office, make sure to lock the door and pull those pants down you guys might end up in a quickie
Patio or balcony
You don’t have to go too far, your balcony or patio is a perfect place to loosen up a little to the idea of random places. If you have a transit view it’s best that you do it at night with lights off.
Spicing It Up With Toys
Toys are always a plus when it comes to sex and excitement. Sometimes is hard to approach your partner with them at the right time. But there is no better time than oral sex.
Here is a list of perfect toys to include into your oral sex moments
Vibrating Gold Egg
Fresh by Leaf
Ida by LeLo
Share Your Story
Don’t be shy share an anecdote of your favorite position, toys, and places. Tell us where and how you like to practice oral sex. You can be the inspiration for my next blog, I’m so excited to read and share your story with all of these sexually open souls. Remember you can always call us, email us or publish it on a comment.